Comments on: Masks of the Teenagers http://victorelu.com/masks-of-the-teenagers/ Romanian studying in Aarhus Mon, 30 Jan 2012 09:03:41 +0000 hourly 1 By: luna http://victorelu.com/masks-of-the-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-116 luna Mon, 04 May 2009 14:35:41 +0000 http://victorelu.com/?p=234#comment-116 i know it's not fair and because of this many people are being left aside, people who are misunderstood and who could otherwise be good friends i know it’s not fair and because of this many people are being left aside, people who are misunderstood and who could otherwise be good friends

]]> By: Victor http://victorelu.com/masks-of-the-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-115 Victor Mon, 04 May 2009 14:25:40 +0000 http://victorelu.com/?p=234#comment-115 I guess that if a parent would try to impose their kid to have certain friends and tastes, he would do the exact opposite just because. On the other hand, if the parents tell him that they agree with his group of friends he will be happy about that and wouldn't want to change them. The best thing to do is exactly what you said: make him realize what's good for him. The only problem is that this has to be done in a very subtle manner and if the kid realizes what they're doing, they're fucked :) you said that teenagers don't trust themselves and that's true but from what I have seen so far in the teenagers now-a-days, they either don't trust themselves or they trust themselves too much. Why can't there be any middle class? Everyone seems to fall into the categories "bullies" or "geeks" and that is just not fair and not how it used to be some years ago. I guess that if a parent would try to impose their kid to have certain friends and tastes, he would do the exact opposite just because. On the other hand, if the parents tell him that they agree with his group of friends he will be happy about that and wouldn’t want to change them. The best thing to do is exactly what you said: make him realize what’s good for him. The only problem is that this has to be done in a very subtle manner and if the kid realizes what they’re doing, they’re fucked :)

you said that teenagers don’t trust themselves and that’s true but from what I have seen so far in the teenagers now-a-days, they either don’t trust themselves or they trust themselves too much. Why can’t there be any middle class? Everyone seems to fall into the categories “bullies” or “geeks” and that is just not fair and not how it used to be some years ago.

]]> By: luna http://victorelu.com/masks-of-the-teenagers/comment-page-1/#comment-114 luna Mon, 04 May 2009 14:18:19 +0000 http://victorelu.com/?p=234#comment-114 i think that some teenagers just don't trust themselves, that's why they don't share their opinions because they are afraid of not beeing "cool", and sometimes they want so bad to be included in a group so they start acting, talking like those people and lie about sharing the same interests. you said very well that teenagers find their tastes according to their friends which is a realy bad thing because most of the time they only have the impression that those tastes are theirs too. i think that parents should interfere only by giving advice and trying to make their children to trust themselves, not to impose them to have certain friends and tastes. for me, beeing a good parent means to understand your child, to respect his opinion and to make him realise what's good for him. i think that some teenagers just don’t trust themselves, that’s why they don’t share their opinions because they are afraid of not beeing “cool”, and sometimes they want so bad to be included in a group so they start acting, talking like those people and lie about sharing the same interests. you said very well that teenagers find their tastes according to their friends which is a realy bad thing because most of the time they only have the impression that those tastes are theirs too. i think that parents should interfere only by giving advice and trying to make their children to trust themselves, not to impose them to have certain friends and tastes. for me, beeing a good parent means to understand your child, to respect his opinion and to make him realise what’s good for him.

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